Longing to be Loved

Dear Tina,

I have often felt so passionate and intensely connected to a person only to have the relationship fail dramatically. I yearn for a loving, emotional and connected relationship and instead I get intense sexual relationships that aren’t fulfilling in the long run.

- Longing to be Loved

Dear Longing to be Loved,

It sounds like you are finding yourself connected to numerous Cosmic Soul relationships.  Cosmic relationships are very passionate and sexually intense, but usually don’t last after the energy shifts to an emotional level. This type of relationship isn’t as destructive as it sounds, though.

When two cosmic souls come together, they actually have a mission. The intense sexual energy activates your first or second chakras, which forces you to instantly ground and reexamine your spiritual purpose. A number of sexual addiction disorders are actually spiritual “disorders” where those affected are desperate to connect to their purpose and feel stability in their lives. The reason the relationships do not last long is because their purpose has been met.

If you find yourself attracted to an intensely passionate relationship and want to find something longer lasting, definitely take a look at your spiritual goals and mission.  Examine your own passions and abilities, and ask yourself if you are satisfied with the direction of your life. If not, investigate other work, friendships, activities that support your love of life. When you are in a space where you love you, the perfect relationship will present itself.

-Tina Bensman